Wednesday, October 28, 2009
Parenting (or lack of)
This entry is not about my relationship with either of my parents. I am not here to offend anyone and I apologize if I do. However, I have witnessed too many broken parent-child relationships. I will never understand how it happens. I am also NOT going to sit here and start man-bashing either. Too many times in our society it is the Dad that is taking the brunt of the absentee parent. We hear all about the 'Dead-Beat Dad' or 'Sperm Donor' (sorry-but I hear it all the time). However, there are a great deal of Moms out there that are just as bad if not worse than those Dads we all hear about. But here is my take on it....
It takes two people to have a child. No matter how you look at it...two people have to come together to make a child. Therefore, they should take responsibility for that child. God has blessed you with the miracle of a child. He has given you His child. It is your gift back to Him to raise that child and provide them with love, trust, and security.
Why, are there so many PARENTS that give up?
Now "giving up" can mean a lot of things. The parents that neglect or abuse their children. They are giving up on protecting and providing for their children. The parents that get divorced and use their children as pieces in a game. They are making their children choose between the two people that they love unconditional. The parent that takes a child away from the other parent. They are forcing their child to give up on the other parent. Or the parent that has a child then drops out of their lives. They are giving up on the child completely.
Don't give up on your children! Give them the love and security that they need. Give them support-even when you don't agree with their choices. I know that my children may make some bad choices in life but I, as a parent, have to stand by them (or behind them). Catch them if they fall or teach them how to brush themselves off and try again. I won't allow their mistakes, or mine for that matter, interfer with our relationship. Give them family-both paternal and maternal sides of the family. Do not allow only one side of the family to see your children. They learn so much from all of those people and who are you to take that away from them. Is it so hurtful to you as a parent that there are people out there that love your children? Personally, my children are better off being loved and cared for by many than just by little ole me. Allow those relationships because it makes them better people. Give them yourself-BE THERE. Even if you can't provide for their every want, you can give them the love and relationship that they do need.
I'm not 100% sure about everything. I do have an idea that my special gift from God is to love children. Why would I do what I do for the amount of money I make? I do it because if nothing else they will know that Miss Michelle loved them and cared for them enough to help them grow up.
Because I don't want them growing up wondering....
What was wrong with me?
Why wasn't I good enough?